Masturbation

As long as people have been walking up right on earth masturbation has occurred. Masturbation is a natural and valid part of your sexuality its the ultimate form of self-care (Newman, 1999). Even though masturbation has been around for eons it is often frowned upon, reprimanded for by well meaning parents, and kept secret. Don't guiltily clutch yourself in the dark or secretly in the bathroom when you have a spare moment. Make an experience of it. The next time you are feeling a little naughty light some candles, put on your favorite music and stand in front of the mirror. Slowly begin touching yourself as you watch your signs of arousal. Experiment with different pressures, techniques, and speeds its not important to achieve orgasm its important to draw it out and love yourself. Pleasure is a basic necessity just like food and water. The myriad of emotions and sensations that course through your body while you are practicing self love can run the spectrum. Its a really good tool to get to know yourself sexually and emotionally. Playing with yourself gives you the chance to see at what speed you like it. While you can train your body to respond to a variety of sensations and stimulation it might take a while for your body to get use to it. Besides what better way to explore that kinky new request your partner keeps asking you about then by yourself in a controlled environment where they are not bursting with excitement and maybe rushing the activity. Speaking of partners, don't think that masturbation is always a solo act. Letting your partner seeing you unguarded as you fulfill your desires can be a great way to up the intimacy in your relationship. Nothing says "I trust you and I accept you" then letting someone see you at your most vulnerable. When making love with your sweetie end with mutual masturbation sometime. Its a great way to teach her or him what you like and the pressure of "making you come" is lifted. They can now concentrate on other ways to make you feel loved, adored, dominated or whatever you like. How much pleasure are you allowing yourself? Take matters into your own hands, tonight.